A sense of well being is one of the key foundations of positive psychology and positive parenting. By having better control of our bodies, decisions, and emotions, we are capable of more success and happiness throughout life. Having a sense of well being promotes self-regulation, a key approach to successfully maintaining health, stopping bad habits, ending addictions, and improving behavior.
The best way to promote self regulation in children is to encourage a positive sense of well being. When children have a positive sense of well being, they are healthier – both mentally and physically. The also do better in school, have better test scores, and feel happier than their peers who do not have a positive sense of well being.
Helping your children have a positive sense of well being can be accomplished through using a positive parenting approach with your children. There are several things you can do that will promote well being:
· Empower your children. Teach your children to be responsible and accountable by allowing them to make choices independently. This can occur from a very young age. By allowing your children to make decisions and control their lives even in small ways, they will learn to take responsibility for the consequences of their decisions.
· Believe in your children. Communicate with your children and tell them that you believe they are capable of doing whatever they dream of doing. Even if it is not something you envision for their future, by allowing them to envision success in doing what they dream, they will develop a stronger sense of self and be more likely to believe in their own capabilities as well.
· Allow your children to be individuals. Instead of encouraging your children to live without questioning – in school, in politics, in life – encourage them to think for themselves, learn to express and articulate their own opinions. By valuing your children’s input and thoughts, you teach them to value their ability to contribute positively to their world.
· Love your children unconditionally. Even if your child makes a choice that leads to negative consequences, address the behavior separate from the person. Never tell your child he or she is bad. You can express disappointment in the choice made but always make sure your child knows you love him or her no matter what.
By supporting your child in a positive and encouraging manner, you will arm him or her with a sense of capability that will increase self-esteem, confidence, and a sense of well-being. These positive parenting emotions will give your child the ability to navigate the stresses and challenges of life successfully.
